How we talk

One of the things I am always grateful for is that Allah has guided me into the path I am choosing now, learning and teaching English, a subject that used to be my nightmares during high school. As I have learnt this language, I feel like I can broaden my horizon and being capable of understanding new things, Nouman Ali Khan speech too is one of the light.

One of the striking khutbahs spoken by him is about how people should control their talk in their daily life. It might look nothing special about it, or maybe people think nothing is wrong in the words uttered (as sarcasm has been becoming a trend nowadays). Yet, through this episode, he has reminded me that such unconscous words with such tones, word choices, and discourses can probably hurt or somehow belittle my interlocutors if I don’t carefully think about their feelings or the situations they are in.

Another part of this episode that has made me fall in lies in the opening. The talk about that the Quran in our life is not only for information but something to ponder, to hold on, to be the core source of life’s needs and guidance has really enlighten me. Have I really read it or have I related it into my life? Have the words of Allah knocked my heart and led my path closer to Allah? How far has Quran been in me? I begin to ponder.

“Quran is not just information. The Quran is actually something that is supposed to plant itself inside our heart. So, its lessons and its teachings just like a plant that has to seed, has to go in the soil, then it needs water, it needs sun, it needs nourishment to be able to grow. The soil needs to be right for it to take life. So, it’s not just information you and I hear, or you and I read, and we move along. We have to take time to ponder it, internelize it, and really think about how it is going to take root in our heart and how it is going to change our thinking, our emotion, our behavior even.”
— Nouman Ali Khan

These series of episode are basically from the Surah Al Ahzab ayah 69 -71 and they mainly discussed about the human talk. With clear and contextual examples given in the episode also make them easily understood. I highly recommend his khutbahs and his channel as well for the depth of Quran. May Allah SWT always bless him and his dakwah. Amin.

“O you who have believed, be not like those who abused Moses; then Allah cleared him of what they said. And he, in the sight of Allah, was distinguished. O you who have believed, fear Allah and speak words of appropriate justice.He will [then] amend for you your deeds and forgive you your sins. And whoever obeys Allah and His Messenger has certainly attained a great attainment.”

Surah Al Ahzab Ayah 69-71


Good deeds over possessions


Wealth and children are [but] adornment of the worldly life. But the enduring good deeds are better to your Lord for reward and better for [one’s] hope.

Al Kahfi – 46

To love our possessions is okay, but to put them over Allah is not okay. Remember that we live in this dunya temporarily. Our actual home is hereafter world. Make use of our possessions for our provisions to go to the heavens.

Children that we love dearly are entrusted by Allah. They are also trials for us whether or not we can educate them well to get closer to the owner of the world.

Remember the story of Ibrahim a.s. and Ismail a.s. How they both passed the trials was amazing. Ibrahim a.s. truly loved his his son eventhough they were living miles apart. Once he had the opportunity to visit his son, Allah gave him the test which we have known already what it was. His love for his son was deep, yet his love for Allah was deeper.

Remember the story of Ayyub a.s. He was a righteous and patient person. He was given such trials in which all of his possessions were gone. Also, he was given such a disease that made him more miserable. He lost his wealth and family. His children died. Yet, he was still patient, and his love for Allah was unconditional.

Remember the story of Muhammad s.a.w. and his son, Ibrahim. When he only had Fatimah as his only child, Allah gave him the little Ibrahim which made him so happy. However, Ibrahim didn’t live long enough. Indeed, Muhammad saw. was sad, but he knew that Allah had planned the best for him.

These stories remind us that children, whom we love dearly, and I believe we can sacrifice our wealth just to save them, are trials for us. That we love them in this dunya is important. However, it is far more important that we prepare them and us to walk together to Jannah. It is important to tell them that Allah path is more beautiful than this world and all of its possessions.